With so many couples finding love later in life or when they already have children, Family Unity Rituals are fast becoming not only popular, but important in bringing a sense of commitment, readiness and togetherness to the wedding ceremony and to each member who is trying to find their places in the new family structure.
This example is a simple way of including the children in making the commitment and leaving each member of the family with a lasting reminder of their inclusion.
At the point in the ceremony where the couple have exchanged their rings the celebrant will say:
"Could I now ask Jasmine and Sarah to please come forward? Jake, can we please have the rings?"
(The children can either know about this or it can be a surprise for them. For a boy who would prefer not to wear a ring, he may be given the ring on a chain to wear around his neck or something else appropriate.)
"Jasmine and Sarah, today your parents are making a life-long commitment to share the rest of their lives with each other as a couple, but they could not make those promises wholeheartedly without including the two of you. Not only are they making their vows to each other, but also to both of you to live the rest of each of your lives connected to one another always. (Mum & dad to place the rings on the girl’s fingers).
The relationship that you each have with the other members of this family are symbolized with the rings that you each now wear. Each one is perfectly round with no beginning or end and is made of the strongest metal. Today they represent everything that your parents hope for this family. For there to be no end and for this family to be made of the strength, love and commitment that each of you bring to it today.
May this togetherness never be broken and may your lives always be blended and intertwined with each other’s in happiness, hope and prosperity.
The Wedding Gurus.