As a celebrant, I am lucky enough to
get to spend time with each couple in the lead up to their wedding day. Getting
to know them, planning their ceremony and working out the right wording takes
time and it is during this time that I usually get a real sense of who they are
and how they ‘fit’ together as a couple.
At some stage in this process we
usually get the part where we either have a rehearsal or at least a run through
of what will happen on the day and where everyone will stand. This is usually
fun and exciting, but I have found that despite going over all the details, it
in no way prepares them for the explosion of emotion and love they often feel
overcome by at the very moment they see each other on the day.
The celebrant usually arrives at the
venue at least half an hour in advance on the day in order to set up and
prepare documents etc. In a ceremony with a bride and groom, the groom and his groomsmen are usually wandering
around, greeting guests as they arrive and looking generally nervous!
As the moment draws near and tensions
build, the bride finally arrives and as I usher the groom and groomsmen into
position, the nerves and anticipation of the guests are palpable.
As we wait, the groomsmen are usually
giving the groom grief, teasing him and making jokes, but as the bride appears
from whatever direction she enters, the mood changes. All eyes are on his bride
and I would have to say that in about 80 percent of cases, the groom cries. Not
sobbing or bawling, but tears of joy, of gratitude and of how lucky he feels.
This is particularly true when the couple have children and the children enter
in front of the bride. Even the biggest, blokiest of them all usually succumb
(and in fact are often the softest!) Its a beautiful moment and one that I feel
so honoured to share with the couple.
Where we have two grooms or two brides, it's pretty much the same, but sometimes they will arrive together or both walk down the aisle separately and sometimes have mixed bridal parties.
No matter what it may be, the exchange between the couple when they first see each other is magical and I feel so blessed to get to be a part of life's big moments like this.
So, make sure your photographer knows that you want to capture that moment and they are ready top snap when your eyes first meet on the aisle to becoming a married couple.
The Wedding Gurus